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10 Ways to Help You Have a More Productive Day

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I don’t write this article telling you, that you need to do these 10 things if you want to have a happy and successful day and if you don’t do all 10, you suck and you’ll never have a happy or successful day. Those kind of lists are lame. These are simply 10 things that have made my day more productive. Even if you just choose one of these ten things to implement into your day, I know that it can help you have more of a meaningful, happy, and successful day.

1. DAILY MEDITATION

No matter the approach to how you meditate, meditation can have many benefits. If prayer and pondering is your source of meditation, then get on your knees and pray. If breathing exercises or techniques is your source, then do it. It doesn’t matter how you meditate, if it’s praying, or sitting on a yoga mat in the wilderness, just find time to meditate. Meditation can help provide focus and clarity on what you need to accomplish that day. Or if you’re searching for answers, meditation can be used as a great assistance in discovering answers for your life.

There are many benefits that can come from meditation. Such as less stress, better sleep, healthier and happier relationships, it sharpens your concentration and helps manage anxiety. According to headspace.com, “Anxiety currently affects about one in fourteen people worldwide. That’s 7.3% of the total world population. A systematic review of in-person meditation training found that 69% of the studies analyzed showed meditation practice alleviated symptoms of anxiety.”. So whether you want to be happier, have a better relationship, sleep better, have less stress, or just have more concentration, than meditation can help you. If you’ve never meditated or don’t know how and would like to learn how I would recommend headspace. Click HERE to download the app and learn more.

2. MAKE YOUR BED FIRST THING IN THE MORNING

You know that scene in “The WaterBoy,” when Bobby (Adam Sandler) tells his Professor, “No Colonel Sanders, you’re wrong. Mama’s right.” Well, Mama was right when she told me every morning, “Ben, make your bed”. Because there are some serious benefits to bed making.

I recently read a research article about how people who make their bed in the morning are more happier and successful than those who don’t make their beds. The study included, 71% of bed makers consider themselves to be happy, and 62% of non-bed-makers consider themselves said they were unhappy. It went on to say that, bed makers are more likely to own a home, have good exercise habits, and like their jobs, and feel well rested. While non-bed-makers are the exact opposite, they hate their jobs, wake up tired, avoid the working out and they rent apartments. So yes, when your Mama told you to make your bed, she was saying, if you want to be happy today, then fix those sheets!

View research article HERE

3. READ A BOOK FOR 25 MINUTES A DAY

I read a quote, not too long ago that goes, “Ordinary people seek entertainment. Extraordinary people seek education and learning. The most successful people read books and they read them a lot.” Find time every day to read a book. If you’re an avid reader, I’m sure you read more than 25 minutes every day. So, keep doing that! When I was younger, I did not like reading. I hardly ever picked up a book, unless it was for school. But, the last five years I have developed the habit of reading and it has enriched my life. I still don’t like to read novels, but you will see me read educative and self-improvement books.

Carry a book with you. Whether on your phone or tablet or if your “old school” have that hard copy with you. That way, if you’re waiting at the doctor’s, or waiting in line at the DMV, instead of wasting time on your phone with social media, pull out your book an read.

I don’t care how busy your life may seem, I believe everyone has at least 25 minutes to read. Audiobooks count, too! If you have a long commute, listen to a book. Also, if you need a book suggestion, I recommend this one. (Yes, I’m a little bias, since I wrote it with my wife. We have audio, too!)

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4. DAILY PHYSICAL ACTIVITY

I’m not saying you need to get a gym pass, but it could help. You can workout at home, or go for a jog or a speedwalk. At my house, my wife and I have the TRX, Beach Body DVDs like T25 and Insanity. My wife just loves Shaun T. No matter your method or technique, exercise for at least 20-30 minutes.

There are many benefits that come from exercising/working out.

  • Exercising can control your weight, helps prevent weight gain.
  • Exercising combats health diseases and conditions. Or like the Mayo Clinic mentions, “Regular exercise helps prevent or manage a wide range of health problems and concerns, including stroke, metabolic syndrome, type 2 diabetes, depression, a number of types of cancer, arthritis and falls.” (Para. 7).
  • Exercising gives you an emotional lift. It helps you feel good. Exercising helps stimulates brain chemicals that help you feel happier.
  • Exercising can help you have better sleep.
  • Exercising can improve your intimate relationships.

There are many benefits to exercising, so the bottom-line is, just do it! If you struggle with exercising, you just have to get into the habit of doing it. Find an accountability partner that will help keep tabs on you and make sure you are exercising. I also, worked-out from home, but most days it was easy to just not do it. It was just me being lazy. So, to help me break out of my lazy habit and create an exercise habit, I bought a gym pass and paid six months in advance. That was me showing commitment, otherwise, I’d be wasting my money. Going to the gym these past five months 4-5 times a week, I have seen improvements in my body, health like with my asthma, and simply I just feel better about myself.

5. WRITE IN A JOURNAL

Now, this is something that I can really improve. Whenever I bought a journal to write in, I would do it for a week, then stop. I suck at journal writing. So, I found what works for me was, writing apps. Instead of a pen to paper, I type up my thoughts and impressions. There are some seriously great benefits that can come from journal writing:

  • It can and will increase your gratitude in yourself, with your others and your situation.
  • Helps clarify your thoughts and feelings. Journaling allows you to write what you are feeling and what thoughts you have, it helps you get more in touch with yourself.
  • Clears your emotions and reduces stress.
  • Journaling can help you get to know yourself better.
  • It can improve your writing skills.

Write in journal or type in a journal every day for at least 5-10 minutes. There is always this misconception with journaling, that it really is a big time commitment. You don’t need to make your journal all fancy, just write your thoughts, impressions, and feelings that you had throughout the day. Allow yourself 5-10 minutes to have for self-reflection, it could be a great way to end your day.

6. WRITE AND LEAVE A THOUGHTFUL/ENCOURAGING NOTE FOR SOMEONE ONCE  A DAY

Leaving a note can and will go a long way. If you know someone who is struggling, having a hard time, or even someone that you live with or interact with every day, giving them a note that says, “I’m thinking of you”, “you da’ man”, “I love you”, “keep fighting”, etc. Those notes will not only make them feel encouraged and loved, but it will also increase your love and character. These notes will add some suspense and excitement to your day and it can help strengthen your relationships. It’s exciting to leave these notes and watching from a distance when they find these notes, it makes you feel good knowing you made someone smile.

When I served a two-year church mission in Philadelphia, I had a partner once who has Crohn’s disease and was sick all-the-time and struggled with his confidence. He was struggling and I would hide sticky-notes every day that he would find. These notes were all one-liners but centered around encouraging him. When I was transferred to a different area and we weren’t partners any longer, he showed me all 50+ sticky notes that I wrote for him. Made me feel good, knowing I made a positive impact in his life.

The goal is to be creative. Here are some fun places to place your notes:

  • On a windshield
  • In their shoe
  • Inside their laptop
  • Bathroom mirror
  • In a drawer
  • The Mailbox
  • The rearview camera on your vehicle, so when they put the car in reverse they see a note
  • The toilet seat

John Wooden said, “You cannot live a perfect day without doing something for someone who will never be able to repay you.”

7. SAY “THANK YOU” MORE

“Thank you is quite possibly the two most important words in the English language” -Unknown.

Showing gratitude for something or towards someone can go a long way. It can literally change your day. One of the greatest attributes one can have in this life is gratitude. So, commit yourself to saying “thank you” more.

The benefits of saying thank you are immense and we have so many opportunities every day to thank people. So, think for a second. How many people have you never said thank you to? Who could you throw a thank you at again, but this time doing it with more meaning? Go thank those people, even if you have to go out of your way.

Don’t treat thank you’s like a transaction. Don’t cheapen it with reciprocity. Saying thank you can be deeply personal and touching, don’t ruin the opportunity by expecting something in return for your gratitude.

8. DRINK 60-100 OUNCES OF WATER DAILY

I know this one seems random to be on this list. But, hear me out. I’ve always been really bad at drinking water and I read earlier this year how much water can help. So, for the last six months, I have drunk about 80+ ounces of water each day. I downloaded a water drinking app, called “Drink Water” and it reminds me throughout the day to drink water. I just simply type in my weight and height and it tells me how much to drink each day. It’s easy and it’s helped me. I’ve been able to control my appetite, I have more energy, I feel more productive and I think water has even helped my skin.

Finding how much water you should drink daily can be tricky. The Institute of Medicine suggests that men drink 104 ounces of water daily and women drink 72 ounces of water daily. But, it is still not that simple. Depending on your exercise, weight, and age it can determine how much water you may need. To see a chart suggesting how much water you should drink daily, click HERE.

Drinking healthy amounts of water can give you many benefits. Such as healthier skin, smaller waistlines, a better functioning brain, helps control your body temperature, helps eliminate waste in your body, helps your joints, and even protects your spine and other body tissues.

Drinking enough water helps you live better. It should be a no-brainer, substitute the soda every-now-and-then and drink some water. Just remember our body weight is 60% water and every system in our body needs water to effectively function.

9. COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS

Gratitude was always considered a religious term and tradition, but now science backs up the claim and supports that gratitude does make you happier. Gratitude can decrease depression and improve optimism. Robert Emmons a gratitude researcher, confirms from his studies that, “gratitude effectively increases happiness and reduces depression.”

Counting your blessings helps you focus on what’s most important and places less importance of materialistic things.

Before going to bed, take time to reflect on your day and identify 3-5 things you are grateful for. Robert Emmons conducted a research on a group of young adults who performed daily gratitude exercises, such as counting their blessings, they showed higher levels of alertness, enthusiasm, determination, attentiveness, and energy compared to those participants who focussed on hassles or negative comparisons.

“The secret of happiness is to count your blessings while others are adding up their troubles.” -William Penn

10. STOP WORRYING ABOUT THINGS THAT YOU HAVE NO CONTROL OF

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There will come a time in your life where you will have to face a harsh truth, the truth is you don’t have control over many things that occur in your life. Embrace this truth and don’t resist it. There are things in life that you won’t be able to prevent, you just have to be willing to let it go and not worry about it. Worrying doesn’t do any good. It wastes your time and energy.

If you struggle with worrying (like myself at times) you have to determine what you can control. When those worrying situations arise, stop, relax and assess the situation. Discover what you have control of and let go of what you don’t. I like the saying, “You can’t prevent storms from occurring, but you can be prepared for how you will handle those storms.” You can’t control other people’s behaviors, but you can control your behavior and how you react.

Be willing to accept that sometimes, all you can control is your attitude and effort. When you focus on things you can control, you’ll find yourself being much more productive.

“If you get too engrossed and involved and concerned in regard to things over which you have no control, it will adversely affect things over which you have control.” -John Wooden

Self-Belief

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If I had to say what would be the core or foundation of this blog it would be self-belief. There is a good source of personal power that comes when we believe in ourselves. Belief can push aside our weaknesses and the things that we may struggle with and turn those weaknesses into strengths. Belief is that power that helps you achieve the things that you wish to accomplish. Believing in yourself is so important to obtain for you to improve and grow as an individual.

People undertake personal growth and self-improvement for many number of reasons. Whether that is to learn something new, develop a new skill or trait, overcoming and changing a bad habit or getting over a mistake. No matter the reason for why you want to improve, if you want to accomplish those things you must first believe in yourself that you can. Without a sense of self-belief, the chances are you will not do it. You will not succeed and more than likely you will quit. You need to discover that there is power within you that comes from believing in yourself. Wouldn’t you agree that the greatest achievements in your own life came by product of believing in yourself? Because you believed you could, you were able to do it. Even the things that bless us today, are from someone or a group of people who believed it could be done. If you act on that same principle of self-belief that has empowered millions of lives, you can accomplish literally anything.

There is no trick. There is no method or steps. This is not a gimmick. It’s all self-belief and it starts with you! You are the one who has to do decide, whether you will do it and believe in yourself or whether you will not. It starts with you. You must believe that you can do the things that you want to achieve. Believe in yourself and believe that you can.

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You need to let fear go. Push fear aside. Fear will keep you from believing in yourself and fear will keep you from accomplishing your goals. Fear prevents self-belief. Fear stops you from doing great and mighty things. How many times in your life have you had an idea for an invention or something new? Countless times, right? What happens? Did you do it? And if you didn’t do it, what happened? You went to a store or read something online and you found out months or years later, that the invention or idea that you had was accomplished by somebody else. What stopped you from pursuing that idea? Fear! I think it is safe to assume that fear is what prevented you.

You thought that you weren’t good enough.

You weren’t smart enough.

You thought to yourself I don’t have the resources, money or time.

So, you let fear stop you and that inspiration left you and found someone else. Maybe it would have played out different had you push fear aside and just believed in yourself and in your abilities and capabilities. Now, I don’t want to sound preachy, because I fall into this too. Many times, I have let fear control the outcome, but I have learned and re-learned the importance of self-belief and how it can work miracles in your life.

Never underestimate the importance of self-belief, because it can literally transform your life. Empower yourself. Have a willingness to accept and acknowledge your weaknesses, but be determined to turn them into strengths. If you want to change and if you want to grow you first have to believe. Believe in yourself and remember it starts with you!

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You Don’t Know.

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As a young person, you’re constantly thinking about the future and what the future holds for you. At least that’s how I am. I find that I am always thinking about the future and wishing it could be now. I get impatient with waiting for the future and even when I don’t have those impatient moments, I can’t help but want those future events that I have in mind to just happen already.

See, as humans, we do not like waiting. Do we? Especially nowadays. We are seriously spoiled when it comes to the toys and gadgets we have today. We can get any information in an instant with our phones, tablets, laptops, and computers. If we are hungry and want food quickly, we have fast food (which I wouldn’t recommend, unless it’s Dell Taco). Literally, almost everything is available to us in an instant, except one thing. Time.

Lately, I have made a decision to just let those thoughts go and not worry about the future, but live fully in the present. As I made this decision I am reminded of an experience I had a couple of years ago, when my wife and I were able to sit down with President Henry B. Eyring, the first counselor in the Presidency of The LDS Church.
As we met with him, he leaned forward on his desk, looked me in eyes and asked,

“Ben, tell me your life story?”

I started to tell him about my schooling and what I was majoring in. My background on who I was, what I did and what my future plans were. Upon finishing he smiled with this really big smiled and chuckled and said

“You don’t know what you’re going to do. You don’t know.”

I was shocked by that comment and thought, excuse me? For real? You’re going to tell me, that I don’t know? I was so confused. He followed by saying, “No one knows what they’re going to do with their life. You just don’t know what will happen, where life will take you and what will come up in your life.” He then mentioned, how important it is to stay patient and pay close attention to the opportunities that arise.

I get so lost in the thought of the future and I think that we all do it. We tend to worry and at times it can affect our daily life and our current responsibilities. I have come to discover through President Eyring that it is not for us to worry about what is going to happen.

Life has seasons. I’m not talking about the four weather seasons. I’m talking about where we are in life. You may be in a new career season. Or a loss of a job season and you’re looking for work. A starting a family season. A newly wed season. Or like me, I am in the family season and finishing up my degree season. We can’t worry about the next season or what is next in our life. Focus on the now, live in the now! It’s okay to have future plans and goals but don’t let those future plans and goals overshadow or take away from our current responsibilities.

“To everything, there is a season and a time to every purpose…” -Ecclesiastes 3:1.

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We have no clue on what the future holds. We don’t know. I don’t know. You don’t know. Sure we may have future goals and ideas, but those can change. We have to keep our eyes and heart open to the opportunities that come our way. Too often people miss opportunities that come because we get so caught up on focusing on a sole plan that we end up missing things. I think that one of the definitions of success is the ability to make difficult choices and act on the unknown. I️ firmly believe that life is always throwing opportunities our way, sometimes we miss them, or we don’t seem to believe that it is an opportunity, or we are just flat out afraid to do anything about it. Do not fear or be hesitant about new opportunities. The future is only going to be as bright as your faith. Trust in time and simply just believe that if you stay the course and are willing to be patient, you will be led to know what you are to do.

So, quit worrying about the future, because it is out of your control. Live in the now and try to find joy in this journey that we call life.

“Do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do.” – John Wooden